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Originally Posted by leastofthese
Interesting that even years after graduating FTAA they use the concept of arranged marriage. I don't really think I even have a problem with the concept (haven't put much thought into it) but it is a very unusual practice in America. I remember FTTA grads asking elders to set them up at a training in Anaheim. For whatever reason, they were unable to talk to other FTTA's without first clearing it through an elder. I assumed the guys were just chicken to talk to the girls, but maybe there is more to it. I know one guy that even asked the girl if she would say yes IF he proposed... I've never heard of that before.
Do any FTTA grads on the site have details on these rules that they follow?
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I am not an FTTA grad but I did attend an FTT within the last 10 years and this is basicaly what they told us.
If you are interested in another brother or sister you should go to an elder and tell them. The elder will then approach the person of interest on your behalf. This will keep it all properly "covered".
Some people got together this way.
Some people had no involvement from the elders about who they married.
Some people had elders suggesting they get together even though neither had said they were interested in the other person.
I had a older sister of influence approach me a few years ago telling me how a brother had expressed a desire for a wife, trying to gauge my interest. I honestly can't remember how I reacted but I do know I had a laugh about it afterwards that someone would think I would make a "good wife" for that person.