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Originally Posted by Evangelical
It's a modern day myth that two people need to spend a long time together to create a bond and then when they feel ready, they are ready for marriage.
God intended marriage, not dating, for creating lasting, long-term bonds. Adam and Eve got married very quickly
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Yeah bro Ohio. Before running straight to the forbidden tree, they ran straight to the justice of peace, to tie the knot.
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Originally Posted by E
This is why many fall into sexual sin before marriage - people in a long term relationship e.g. 3 years, often commit fornication because they "can't wait". They follow their natural desires as God intended but due to some social stigma for getting married "too early", they fall into the trap of waiting too long and so fall into fornication.
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My marriage was arranged in the local church, very quickly, by the elders. And there was no chance of hanky-panky, as we were never allowed alone together.
So there was no romance, or even kissing. More importantly there was no love.
After marriage, as long as she was involved with the sisters, and I was involved with the brothers, it didn't matter. But after we got the boot the lack of love stuck out like a sore thumb.
The marriage failed.
Arranged marriages is a custom thing, a cultural thing. It may work in India, but it's not the custom here in America.
The church has no business getting involved in relationships and courting. Only cults do that ; like polygamous FLDS (Mormon) cults.