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Old 04-09-2018, 10:45 AM   #12
Freedom
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Default Re: Relationships/Courting

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Originally Posted by awareness View Post
The church has no business being involved in relationships and courting. Just who do they think they are, parents? Oh I forgot. They are a cult.
Somehow this basic fact never occured to many of us. For those like myself who grew up in the LC, the ideology was pushed on us even at an early age. It seemed reasonable in the sense that we thought that the elders were simply looking out for our best interests.

It didn’t occur to me there was anything abnormal about it until I saw the attempts at meddling and matchmaking backfire on several people. When I came to see what was really going on, and how leaders were abusing the trust that was placed in them, I realized how wrong it really was.

What also was insightful was all the evasive answers I received when I tried to address such concerns. I heard people try to rationalize why matchmaking was needed. I heard denial that the LC interferes in relationships. I saw deliberate attempts to break up relationships, and when I tried to get people to acknowledge what was happening, the response was just to shrug it off as if it were nothing.

I am not married yet, but I consider that to be much better than to have been pushed into an arranged marriage.
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