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Originally Posted by Trapped
As a church kid in the U.S. from the age of zero, I can echo the extreme separation of brothers/sisters in the LC. One serving one told me, "Don't even think about it until you're 25." And like a little naive sheep with an entire community of laser beam eyes on me watching and judging every interaction I had with a member of the opposite sex, I did just that. Then when I turned 26 I got comments about how I was getting dusty and old. I was so confused....
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Wow I can so relate!! Esp w the laser beam eyes. Even other kids our own age would do it so it felt you could never have an opportunity to talk to someone.
It would be interesting to hear more of your story. I was a rule follower too, the peer pressure did not help either. But in my mind I just could not see a future for me there, and I couldn't stand the amount of control. It's validating to read from brothers on this forum that the control in this area is wrong. I didn't want my future children exposed to the intense feelings of shame and guilt over doing nothing. I didn't realize the lasting impact that part of my life would have on me esp since I experienced mutual attraction w someone there. The rebellious part of me didn't want to wait until an elder gave their "blessing" How weird, isn't that the parent's job? With my luck no elder would have given their blessing to me lol and I wasn't about to have years and years of my life taken away from me/ controlled, so I slowly stopped going.
With time, things get better. The distance between the weirdness then and reality now really helps to solidify that the regulations we were raised with were not healthy!