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Originally Posted by Drake
Why bitter? Your life turned out good, you married someone from the environment in spite of the restriction and are happily going on, and 95% of the young people who did the same thing also are in a good place.... at least the ones I know. Sure, there are tragedies, divorces, unhappiness and I know of a few over forty years but those may be found anywhere. Human relationships are hard work and there is no pixie dust that makes the challenges all go away. Last thing any Christian group wants is a loose and permissive environment that leads to pregnancy or emotional issues as is a common concern for parents as well. Besides, raging hormones attack young people’s willpower and thier pursuit of the Lord so another line of defense is prudent.
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Like I said, I'm not really bitter for my sake. I'm bitter because the vast majority of my friends and acquaintances that I grew up with either still in it and living under the same rediculous rules whilst slowly losing any optimism for marrying before 30 (which has been their goal) or they have left the LC partly because of the relationship reason and are having to deal with many issues caused by growing up in such a bubble and trying to integrate into the real world.
Amongst my immediate peers I am part of 10% who have managed to forge a relationship for themselves and get married (and for all of us it involved beings "rebelllious").
I don't think young people are given enough credit to be able to work things out for themselves. If they are brought up properly and able to communicate openly with parents about "pregnancy and emotional issues" rather than have it all swept under the rug with a "if make eye contact with the opposite sex you will get pregnant and die" attitude, maybe that would be better than all the unhealthy practices that are going on.