One time I was talking to an elder about this topic and he said that there was one area (not sure if it was a specific locality or a general area of the country in the U.S.) where there were a disproportionate number of older (say in their 40s, I think?), unmarried, waiting saints (I think they were all or mostly sisters). He said the fellowship they received was rather than stay unmarried and get to their 50s and 60s and be bitter that they never got married and feel like they were cheated out of a life, they were told to just go out outside "the church" and find a spouse themselves but just to follow the Lord's leading. He told me this story ostensibly to "help" me but all it did was make me mad. All I saw was that these saints lost decades of love, companionship, belonging, physical contact, and sex, and then were told "forget everything we told you, just go follow the Lord now." How about tell them "FOLLOW THE LORD" when they are in their early 20s so they don't lose their best years!?
