[Nell]

I don’t think there is a formula to follow like an if/then statement that insures all the biblical bases are covered. Further, we cannot force someone else to repent. We are responsible for our own obedience, not the obedience of others. Even though the sins of others may be obvious and aggregious, their response is not up to us.

I believe this is what Matthew 18 is all about:
15 Moreover if thy brother shall trespass against thee, go and tell him his fault between thee and him alone: if he shall hear thee, thou hast gained thy brother.
16 But if he will not hear thee, then take with thee one or two more, that in the mouth of two or three witnesses every word may be established.
17 And if he shall neglect to hear them, tell it unto the church: but if he neglect to hear the church, let him be unto thee as an heathen man and a publican.

This is going the distance in conflict resolution resolution in the church. If the sinning brother refuses to hear the church, your responsibility toward them is over. Walk away. The failure to practice Matt. 18 in the church today is monumental, as is the failure to practice Matt. 5:

23 “Therefore, if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother or sister has something against you, 24 leave your gift there in front of the altar. First go and be reconciled to them; then come and offer your gift.

This is where walking by faith is important. We can’t “figure out” the Bible, or “figure out” God. We can only walk with Him by faith, listen to Him, talk to Him and obey Him and His Word...for ourselves.

Nell