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Originally Posted by Freedom
This sounds about right. I don't think that everyone is aware of rules like these, however, most have some idea of what they are. I'm sure the assumption is made say if a couple is dating, then it has been "approved", regardless of if it actually has or not. No one wants to be the one to actually ask about these rules, or worse question the elders regarding the rules. It really leaves those in the LC in a bad situation.
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No, surely newer ones or people who were more at the margins might not take that all so much to heart. But what seemed to happen when someone had even the inkling of just doing what they wanted was that they also pretty much left the LRC. Probably the independence of mind to think for themself left them able to, well, think for themself.
The funny thing is that the one elder I have talked with since has indicated that they were much less involved in the process than most assumed. And they wanted even less involvement. He did indicate that they would advise couples to do their dating somewhere out of the sight of most of the members. So in Dallas, with a collection of people living mostly in the NE part of the city, go more central, or out to the suburbes. Not bad advice when the goal is to keep people's urges to what was simply their own.