Relationships/Courting

[TLFisher]

Originally Posted by clever sister

A couple of years ago I met up with a sister, not sure if she was still meeting with LC at the time, she was just in the same city as me for work.
She was dating someone not in LC, and I was single (as I still am) and we talked about how LC expects us to marry someone in LC, but all the single brothers were uhh... single for a reason.
The number of brothers who had no idea how to speak to sisters was astonishing. I found it tended to improve once they got married, but that's no help to a single sister!
Also, when I was part of Christians on Campus, I remember a new one (I don't think she stuck around long) at a lunch leaning over to me and asking "Why are there separate tables for guys and girls". I didn't know how to answer that. It really is abnormal.
Also, good for you Bradley!

I second that. Good for your Bradley.
Well clever sister, those of us brothers raised in the local churches, at an early age perhaps beginning at 6-7 grade we begin being told "don't talk to sisters". Year after year of that teaching, it becomes ingrained. Equally as much we're taught to be obedient and submissive to those older than us. Another reason brothers tend to be awkward and inept when it comes to speak with sisters is fear of man. They don't want to be rebuked for speaking to a sister. Though there's always the possibility sisters are equally awkward when a single brother is speaking with the. They go into a panic. Thinking how to get away before a "responsible brother" sees the conversation.
How do you break the cycle? Only feasible option is to have blatant disregard for "the brothers" who give fellowship on the matter. Of course that would be received as being rebellious.