Relationships/Courting

[clever sister]

Originally Posted by Terry

I second that. Good for your Bradley.
Well clever sister, those of us brothers raised in the local churches, at an early age perhaps beginning at 6-7 grade we begin being told "don't talk to sisters". Year after year of that teaching, it becomes ingrained. Equally as much we're taught to be obedient and submissive to those older than us. Another reason brothers tend to be awkward and inept when it comes to speak with sisters is fear of man. They don't want to be rebuked for speaking to a sister. Though there's always the possibility sisters are equally awkward when a single brother is speaking with the. They go into a panic. Thinking how to get away before a "responsible brother" sees the conversation.
How do you break the cycle? Only feasible option is to have blatant disregard for "the brothers" who give fellowship on the matter. Of course that would be received as being rebellious.

I'm not saying it was the brothers fault, only it was something that happened. I'm sure there were sisters who couldn't talk to brothers, as well, but I guess a blushing bride is more attractive than a stuttering groom.

[TLFisher]

Originally Posted by clever sister

I'm not saying it was the brothers fault, only it was something that happened. I'm sure there were sisters who couldn't talk to brothers, as well, but I guess a blushing bride is more attractive than a stuttering groom.

I understand. I was trying to convey it's a problem for each gender. It's a systemic problem. Fear of man- fear of what the brothers might think.
Quite often it may appear opinions "the brothers have" has more clout than mutual attraction between a brother and sister.