Why Do We Keep Doing This?

[UntoHim]

Originally Posted by OBW

I guess what I am looking for are personal mea culpas of any sort. Not necessarily huge revelations, but some introspection of how we missed the ones we were around for.
Why were the red flags missed or suppressed?

I really like Mike's notion of "personal mea culpas". Let's try to be as specific and succinct as possible. I think our readers may be more interested in our own personal testimonies and observations of how this dynamic of "Why were the red flags missed or suppressed" played itself out in our personal lives.