Relationships/Courting

[Trapped]

Originally Posted by aron

My advice. Forget about relationships. Forget about career. Forget about everything. Ask yourself a few simple, basic questions. The ones God wants you to ask.

Not to put words in your mouth, but here are a few examples:
Did God really raise Jesus from the dead? What then does it mean, "If you confess with your mouth, and believe in your heart that God has raised Him from the dead, you shall be saved"?

What does 'saved' mean? Who am I? Saved, or not? Why am I here?

Forget about the "hand fits in the glove" crap they spoon-fed you. You need your own answers. And believe me, they will come. God wants you to ask. He said, "Seek and you will find". The LSM tried to shut down your seeking and supply you with their material. Dump it. Start again.

What will happen is that at some point you will ask a question, of God, that will resonate in the core of your being. The answer will surprise you, I guarantee. You will know it is God. "My sheep hear my voice." Follow that voice. You will never get answers, only more questions. But I tell you, the path is peace. Jesus is . . . wow. Words fail me.

Along the way, you will find the Right Person and the Right Job and all that other stuff. But it starts with a question. You just have to find the right one. It is within you.

And I'm not talking 'mysticism' stuff. I am talking Bible. I go by the Word. Period. I supplement it with other readings, but Jesus is the Word of God. It all starts with the Bible. Use your Bible to find the right question. Then God will answer, because He's been waiting for you to ask that question. He wants to tell you something.

Mediators are good and helpful. You will get many companions. But Jesus is the One True Mediator. He is the Faithful Witness. There is only one. Follow him.

God bless your journey.

Thanks for taking the time to write that.

Unfortunately from my time in the LC I am totally closed to being open to God, even though because of that very upbringing, in my living I am still trapped in waiting on Him to bring me a mate.

A while back as I realized I would be "one of those saints" who doesn't get to have a marriage partner at the time in their life when many others do, and a nascent, angry, realization began in me wrapped up in many church kid concepts about God: "Does God use the marriage thing to break people?" And everything in my experience has bolstered that thought, which has made me so angry that He would *&^% around with people in that way just to get what He wants.

So while opening to God in the way you described may be, and probably is, the pathway to a spouse (although I understand that if I open to God with the intention and goal of a spouse He won't "honor" that because the goal is not purely God Himself......maybe the truth or maybe another concept?), I am at the point where about the only way God can prove to me He is worth opening to is to work out the spouse thing first. (Like "you drop your gun first, then I'll drop mine." "No you drop yours!' "No you drop yours!") So there's a massive, volcanically angry standoff between me and Him that I can't even think about too much because we all know the God of the universe will win every time, and I am convinced that even if He gets me to open to Him, He will end up twisting it so that "He is enough" rather than bringing someone along for me to spend my life with, which thought just pisses me off to no end too.