Relationships/Courting

[Ohio]

Originally Posted by calvinnme

At the age of 60, looking back at all I have seen, I can say that it is best to know the person well before marrying or you could have a life of unhappiness. What works in China or India does not necessarily work in America. The saying "marry in haste repent at leisure" is, in fact, quite true.

I knew a young Indian Christian from a Christian family in southern India who came here for his education. He was brilliant, loved the Lord, and was perfectly at ease with a marriage arranged by his parents after returning home.

What he described to me was absolutely different from LC arrangements. He spoke of how much time his parents invested into finding the right spouse for him, using a host of criteria so that the couple would be a suitable match. He saw no downsides to this arrangement, and probably witnessed an entire life of family and friends blessed by this custom.

LC marital arrangements were completely different, and never once had such long term preparations, love, and consideration.